Chris Gardner's choice of his biographical film's title was beyond a mere reminiscent recollection of a mis-spelt word that he came across on almost all his days in peril, it was a remarkable neologism which marked the inevitable separation of feigned happiness from true happyness. Although the film advertises the well sold cliche that destiny favours only those out of the poor who toil hard to make more than a living, it etches a memorable picture of the pursuit of a widely sought state - real happiness,which is called happyness.
Happiness as a state is difficult to realize when achieved, because when you have it, you dont realize that you have it. In the sense, when you have it and by the time you realize your possession, you become conscious and try to restrict the flow of happiness, and thereby restrict happiness itself. When conscious, you are distracted by your existence from your being, no matter how much you try to vex your brain to stay calm. So, in pursuit of happiness, you actually lose it on the way. That is why happiness should never be pusued, it is to be attained. It comes as a reward to truth and passion. It is better to keep lesser reasons to safeguard your happiness, for the more you have, the lesser you will gain
This occured to me as I watched two people laughing - the air was of pure mirth. But it did not take much time to read who among them was actually happy. The smiles of the happier person reached his eyes and emanated a radiant glow of ambience. The other person struggled to mask his artifice - though he did a pretty good job in sporting a camouflage of expressions, the elegance retreated as soon as awareness took over. The happier one continued to amaze the beholder by presenting a sense of ease, from a face comprehended to be unpromising moments before.
So come out of the hangover of the past, submit yourself to the joy of the present, and free yourself from the fear about the future. Truth and passion are, and riches and luxury not, the two ingredients to real happiness also known as happyness - the true way of life.
Nice topic...,
ReplyDeleteBut one thought lingered in my mind:
is good to be happy by not thinking about it or better to be happy by thinking that we really are: the latter fills our mind with bliss, so an being happy without identifying the fact keeps one searching for happiness thereby triggering a vicious circle, thereby keeping him or her never happy.
@mithun: happiness is a state of being and although its essence degrades when one consciously attempts to hold it, there is another happiness that should arise out of the knowledge that one was happy recently/ long back. And hence, there is no need to go in search of happiness as an object. It is a derivative of commitment over time.
ReplyDeleteInteresting thought..reminds me of a line i read sometime back..the worst thing that you can do to a dream is to make it come true :)
ReplyDelete@rakesh: so that u keep dreaming?
Deletebtw there's something else i have seen: an anonymous quote which i like: "the best thing to do so as to realize your dreams is to wake up" - here you stop dreaming though - may be an opposite idea of what u said..